Friday, 28 April 2017

When a minimalist upsizes her home

Can I still be called a minimalist if I'm contemplating getting a bigger house for my family? I sure think so!

Let me explain...

Back in December 2015, I met Mr. Romantic. We hit it off right away. We had our first date on December 4 and our second on the 5th. We've pretty much been inseparable ever since.

Yep, it was that easy!

My condo lease was coming to an end in August 2016, so I could move if I wanted to. And I wanted to! I was unhappy with the condo. So it was either find a new place to rent, or move in with Mr. Romantic.

Within about 5 months into our relationship, we were basically spending all of our time together anyway. Either in the downtown condo or in his suburban townhouse on the weeks he had his kids.

So after much talk and going through my ultimate should we live together questionnaire, we decided to take the plunge.

We've been living in his three-bedroom townhouse for a little over eight months now. Two adults and three kids. My daughter doesn't have her own bedroom with a door. She's been using the basement family room. It makes for a big bedroom, but it has no door and we need to go through it for laundry. Teenagers need their own space. At least, my teenager does.

So, Mr. Romantic and I have decided to try to find a four-bedroom house.But don't worry, it's not all up-sizing. It's lots of purging too! My favourite!!

Having to move can light a fire under you and make you face your stuff.

We don't ask ourselves "is it still good?" as we decide what to keep. The answer to that question would be yes, more often than not. We normally get rid of our trash, so what's left is in good condition.

We ask ourselves "can we remember the last time we used it?", "do we really want to take it with us and pay to have it moved to the new place?" And if we do have it moved to the new place, "do we really want to try and find a spot for it?".

Most four-bedroom homes in our area that interest us have way more space than we need. Tons of storage space. So I expect that whatever house we find, we'll be leaving many of those storage spaces empty. And I'm perfectly fine with that!

Once the kids are all grown up and in their own homes, we'll downsize again. Maybe back to a smaller downtown condo. Maybe in another part of the country. Maybe in a whole other country.

But for now, this minimalist is upsizing her home.

Friday, 31 March 2017

Constantly and consistently work towards minimalism

I apologize for posting later in the day than I usually do on post day. I changed my mind a few times on what to write. Things have been somewhat hectic lately... 

Many things have changed in my life over the past year:
  • My teenage daughter moved out and moved back in.
  • Then, we moved from downtown Ottawa to the suburbs of Kanata where my daughter and I’ve had to learn to live with more people – Mr. Romantic, his cat, and every other week his two kids. (It had been just the two of us for about 13 years.)
  • My daughter has changed schools three times. Once, because of our move. And the other two times so that she could be in a school and program better suited to her needs and wants.
  • I’ve changed jobs in October. The original work team I joined when I changed jobs in October has since been dismantled and I’m now on another team. (I’m still transitioning.)
  • And this month, I’ve had laser eye surgery. My vision is still adjusting, as is my brain. Thirty years of wearing glasses is not easily forgotten. I still have the reflex of adjusting my glasses, even though they’re not there. Or wanting to put them on or take them off a few times during the day. I wouldn’t say that I miss them, but it’s like my brain isn’t quite sure what to do with all that new found “free time”. 
Anyway, with all this life going on, I feel like I’ve kind of lost my minimalist way. Mr. Romantic and I have purchased a few things in our quest to adjust to our new life together. However, we’ve also let go of many, many, things (like when we went through our combined kitchen gear and got rid of any duplicates, keeping only the best version of any given item).

My default is to go out and buy something to "fix the problem". I have to make an effort to talk myself out of impulse purchases. Even though I want a minimalist home, I have to constantly and consistently work towards it – re-examining my true needs and my unnecessary wants.

We’re still adjusting and trying to figure how to best set up our home. A minimalist's work is never done!

Friday, 24 February 2017

Busy morning blog writing

Well, that went by quickly. I said I was going to blog once a month from now on. I figured that would give me more than enough time to think of a topic and write about it. Well, seems like life has been too hectic for me lately.

My blog is called My journey to simplicity. Seems like my journey keeps taking me off the path of simplicity. I know I know, that's just life.

I'm actually writing this post as I'm sitting in the kitchen on a busy Friday morning as Mr. Romantic is trying to get his kids out the door for school and I'm about to leave to drive my daughter to school in Orleans from Kanata (making my morning commute to work about 1.5 hours). *Sigh*

In an effort to try to bring my journey back to simplicity, I've started a bullet journal. I think this is going to be a great tool for me. I've been enjoying it so far. I'll write more about it in another post. Perhaps for my March post...

Mr. Romantic's son is standing right beside me and reading this sentence as I type it out. Like I said, it's a busy morning!

Mr. Romantic's daughter asks "Who's Mr. Romantic? Is daddy Mr. Romantic?"

My daughter shows me a video.

So yeah, writing a blog post on a weekday school morning with the kids in the house is probably not the best idea....

Well... such is life. :)

So as I was saying... the bullet journal is my new fun productive hobby. I've also been getting ready for my trip to Europe with Mr. Romantic, which is coming up very soon.

Well, it's now time for me to leave for work. Sorry about this scattered post. I promise to try to do better for my next post in March.

See you March 31st!