"You didn't fail, you chose to stop!"

"You didn't fail, you chose to stop!" Paula said to me as she put her arm around me. She read my previous post about my last Whole30 attempt (actually, she's been reading all of my posts). After reading this one, she told me that I need to better choose my words. That I need to stop being negative towards myself.

I do have a tendency to be a little hard on myself. Actually, from what some of my friends have been telling me, I guess I can be quite hard on myself. I feel like I should be better. Better at every aspect of my life. Smarter. Fitter. Nicer. Friendlier. Healthier. More together. More productive. More effective. Better in everything. Better than what? Better than what I have been so far.

Even though getting better, growing, improving, is what I feel I need to strive for, I shouldn't beat myself up to get there.

You're right Paula. Thank you for reminding me. I need to be better at this too. :)

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