Focus on simple

Things have been difficult lately, so I've mostly been resting and doing things to make me feel better.

was looking for ways to cope with stress and saw a TED-Ed video talking about how chronic stress damages the brain. Great! Something else to stress out about! But then the video went on to mention how exercise and meditation help reverse that damage. Phew! So for the past week I've also been walking and doing a little weight training almost every day. 

When things get overwhelming, I try to focus on something simple that I have control over. It helps me feel grounded and helps calm me down. Walking is definitely something simple I can do which might help improve my situation. 

Even though I've never trusted any type of therapy before, I've also started cognitive therapy. I got to a point where I just didn't know how to deal with what I have to deal with. I think the most significant thing for now is my grief. 

You see, even though we knew my dad had a chronic illness he'd never recover from, dad was so strong that we didn't even realize how much he was suffering and how numbered his days were. So his passing shocked all of us. Then it was a whirlwind of responsibilities and tasks and personal challenges that I used to avoid dealing with my grief, because I just couldn't. Losing him was just too traumatic for me.

Well the thing is, if you don't deal with your grief, it catches up to you eventually. I think it hits especially when other stressful things happen around you. It'll knock you over and then you really have no other choice but to finally deal with it. I'm trying to learn how to deal with it.

So that's where I'm at for now. I'm not looking for pity. I just want to share my experience with you to maybe help you in case you're going through something similar. I hope that you get the help you need, be it a book, exercise, meditation, therapy, whatever it is. 

And if it's all too much to bear for now, try focusing on simple.


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